Sunday, March 4, 2012

Book Review: How We Love Our Kids

How We Love Our Kids: The 5 Love Styles of Parenting, by Milan and Kay Yerkovich is a book about why we parent the way we do. Everything that happened or didn't happen to us while we were younger affects the way we parent our own children. Milan and Kay have given names to describe the 5 different kinds of parenting styles. They are The Avoider Parent, The Pleaser Parent, The Vacillator Parent, The Controller Parent, and The Victim Parent. 

Milan and Kay write in detail about what each of the 5 different parenting styles looks like. They also list ways that you can change your parenting style, if you are one "type" of parent or another. 

To me, the best part of the book was towards the end when Milan and Kay give helpful advice about how to talk to your child, how to let your child know that you want them to talk to you, and how to make it easier for your child to talk to you. 

 I had a hard time wanting to pick up the book to read the first part because it wasn't all that relevant to me and frankly, kinda boring. It almost seemed as if they were saying that every person comes from some sort of dysfunctional family. I agree that alot of families have dysfunction in them, but not all families.

I would still recommend this book to parents, or people who plan to become parents. I feel there is quite a bit of good advice included in the book. Just not all of it may be relevant to everyone. I'll let you pick and choose what you feel is relevant to you and your family.

Disclaimer: I received this book from Waterbrook Multnomah to review. I was not required to give any positive feedback. All the opinions expressed are my own. 

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